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Unhappiness is lethal to everyone around you, just like second-hand smoke. The famous Terman Study from Stanford followed subjects for eight decades and found that being around unhappy people is linked to poorer health and a shorter life span.
Happiness has much less to do with life circumstances than you might think. A University of Illinois study found that people who earn the most (more than $10 million annually) are only a smidge happier than the average Joes and Janes who work for them.
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Life circumstances have little to do with happiness because much
happiness is under your control—the product of your habits and your
outlook on life. Psychologists from the University of California who
study happiness found that genetics and life circumstances only account
for about 50% of a person’s happiness. The rest is up to you.
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The Constitution only gives people the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself.” – Benjamin FranklinUnhappy Habits
When people are unhappy, it’s much more difficult to be around them, let alone work with them. Unhappiness drives people away, creating a vicious cycle that holds you back from achieving everything that you’re capable of.
Unhappiness can catch you by surprise. So much of your happiness is determined by your habits (in thought and deed) that you have to monitor them closely to make certain that they don’t drag you down into the abyss.
Some habits lead to unhappiness more than others do. You should be especially wary of the ten habits that follow as they are the worst offenders. Watch yourself carefully to make certain that these habits are not your own.
1. Waiting for the future. Telling yourself, “I’ll be happy when …” is one of the easiest unhappy habits to fall into. How you end the statement doesn’t really matter (it might be a promotion, more pay, or a new relationship) because it puts too much emphasis on circumstances, and improved circumstances don’t lead to happiness. Don’t spend your time waiting for something that’s proven to have no effect on your mood. Instead focus on being happy right now, in the present moment, because there’s no guarantee of the future.
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2. Spending too much time and effort acquiring “things.”
People living in extreme poverty experience a significant increase in
happiness when their financial circumstances improve, but it drops off
quickly above $20,000 in annual income. There’s an ocean of research
that shows that material things don’t make you happy. When you make a
habit of chasing things, you are likely to become unhappy because,
beyond the disappointment you experience once you get them, you discover
that you’ve gained them at the expense of the real things that can make
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